You Have A Secret Admirer!

Think about everyone you’ve ever had a crush on. Whether you’re a frequent crusher who falls in love on a daily basis like I am, or you’re one of those people who has had two or three real crushes over the years, everyone gets them (unless you’re asexual and have never had a crush which is totally cool too). Everyone you’ve ever crushed on has most likely had multiple crushes themselves. Statistically speaking, there’s a huge chance that you have been the object of multiple peoples’ desires. This fact is both reassuring and encouraging as well as a bit sad. Sad because we will never know how many people have looked at us and thought, “wow. This is the kind of person I could see myself with for the long haul.” But just knowing that people have thought that about you secretly should bring you some kind of joy. 

Don’t ever think that because a person likes you and never tells you that it means that they didn’t like you enough. Sometimes, it physically pains me to go on not telling my crushes how I feel. I think back to crushes I had nearly three years ago, one in particular, and I get so upset because I just know we could be great together, but I never told him how I felt. Everyone says that life is too short to live with regrets and that you should tell people how you feel, but it’s not that easy. All it takes is getting turned down once to completely discourage you from trying in the future. I know for a fact that my biggest issue with dating is that I wait for guys to come to me rather than going for the ones I really like. I settle for the brave souls who are forward enough to tell me how they feel, and it’s wrong not only for me, but for them. I’m cheating them and myself.

Don’t ever think that you’re not crushable. My friends can attest to the fact that the guys I crush on are not casanovas. Some people have called my crushes unattractive. But to me, they can be the most beautiful people in the world. Just thinking about my aforementioned crush from the past makes my heart race. Everything that I know about him is lovely and it doesn’t matter that he doesn’t look like Ryan Gosling. I’d do anything to be able to kiss his adorable face. So maybe you’re not the prettiest, or the thinnest, or the most outgoing, but that doesn’t mean that a girl/guy hasn’t looked at you and thought that there must be a God because you exist. 

All that being said, we do only live once (unless you believe in reincarnation which is also cool), and would it really be the end of the world if you told your crush that you think they’re beautiful? If nothing else, you’ll brighten their day a bit. I think it’s too late for me and my crush, considering I haven’t seen or spoken to him in years and it’d be creepy to tell him at this point. But the fact that he still means so much to me and I’m still filled with all kinds of regret for not telling him is all the encouragement I should need the next time I get a big crush. I’m only human, though, and embarrassment is unfortunately a big factor in everything I do. Hopefully it’s something I can overcome so as not to miss out on any more potential opportunities to find love.